Breaking the Silence: The Pervasive Impact of Gender-Based Violence Across All Genders

Gender-Based Violence (GBV) is a pervasive issue that affects individuals across the gender spectrum, leaving no one untouched. While the conversation often centers around women, it’s essential to acknowledge that GBV impacts people of all genders, including men, non-binary, and transgender individuals. By sharing stories of resilience and survival from diverse perspectives, we can broaden the conversation and advocate for inclusive support systems.

“In my work and from what I’ve witnessed, most reported GBV cases are about women, and rightly so, because the crisis is devastating. But what breaks my heart is how silently men suffer. Society has taught them that speaking out is shameful. I’ve sat with men who whisper about their abuse only after everyone leaves the room, terrified of being called weak. Even in Zulu culture, we say “Indoda ayikhali” – a man doesn’t cry—but I’ve seen how that proverb kills men slowly. They bleed inside while pretending to be unbreakable. GBV is a human issue, not just a women’s issue, and until we see that, we’ll keep losing sons, brothers, and fathers to silence. What I’ve learned from walking this path is that society doesn’t just judge men; it traps them. From childhood, boys hear “Ifela ngaphakathi” (Die inside, but never show pain). I’ve watched men swallow their suffering because admitting abuse would make them failures in their communities. And for LGBTQ+ people? The stigma is even worse. I’ve held the hands of queer folks who’d rather endure violence than face humiliation at police stations or clinics. These norms aren’t just traditions; they’re chains. That’s why I do this work: to break those chains, so no one suffers alone. The hardest part of being a Gender Champion isn’t just changing norms; it’s changing the minds of people who are not ready to be held accountable. I’ve stood in rooms where men laugh off the idea that they can be abused, clinging to this idea that “real men” can’t be victims. I’ve also seen the relief in a man’s eyes when he realizes he’s not alone, or the courage of a transgender person finally reporting abuse after years of fear. This is why I started to disrupt these toxic norms, one conversation at a time, until no one has to hide their pain to fit society’s broken idea of strength.”

Siphesihle Nkosi said.

GBV encompasses various forms of violence, including physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), an estimated 1 in 3 women worldwide have experienced physical or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime. However, men and non-binary individuals also experience GBV, often with limited access to support services. Approximately 40% of men in South Africa experience domestic violence, yet they face barriers in reporting due to societal stigma and cultural expectations, highlighting the need to redefine GBV as “human-based violence” and address biases in support services and awareness campaigns.

GBV is perpetuated by societal norms and systemic barriers that contribute to violence against all genders. Gender stereotypes and expectations, limited access to support services, cultural attitudes, and that condone violence. To effectively address GBV, we need to create inclusive support systems that recognize the needs of every victim. Providing accessible services for all genders, training professionals to respond sensitively and raising awareness about GBV’s impact on all individuals

Conclusion

GBV is a human rights issue that requires a comprehensive approach. By acknowledging the experiences of all survivors, regardless of gender, we can work towards a more inclusive and supportive environment. Let’s break the silence and create a world where everyone can live without fear of violence.

Sources:

Global:

1. UN Women (http://www.unwomen.org)
2. International Rescue Committee (http:// www.rescue.org)
3. RAINN (http://www.rainn.org)

 South Africa:

1. SAPS Emergency: 10111
2. National GBV Command Centre: 080 042 8428
3. Sonke Gender Justice (http:// www.genderjustice.org.za)
4. People Opposing Women Abuse (http:// www.powa.co.za)

Remember, GBV affects individuals across the gender spectrum. Let’s work together to create a more inclusive and supportive world for all.

About the author:

Thatoyaone Moepetsane is a creative and community leader from Tlakgameng, North West, South Africa. Started school at Seitsang Primary, A proud member of the Activate! Change Drivers 2018 cohort, writers hub, Thatoyaone, is a talented short film writer and published author. He also serves as Director of Thato Digital Solutions (Pty) Ltd. and Chairperson of the Tlakgameng Community Health Centre Committee.